Joseph had a tream from God that he would be a leader in his family.  So when he was told by his father to deliver a essage to his older brothers, he took it as a mandate to supervise and boss them around.  In his arrogance, he did nothing but alienate the very people he was supposed to lead.  What was he missing?  A servant's heart.

Then his brothers sold him into Egypt where God could teach him to be a servant by having him live as a slave.

Moses thought he could make God's calling on his life happen through the strength of his own hand.  Instead of jump starting his destiny, however, he was chased away as a murderer.  So God took him to the backside of the desert where he learned to be a shepherd taking care of someone else's sheep.  Forty years later, once he had a servant's heart, God called him back tohis original destiny of delivering God's people from slavery in Egypt.

Jesus said "For even the son of man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life a ransom for many."  (Mark 10:45)

Do you want God to promote you into your destiny and call others to serve you in it?  Then you need to find another person's destiny that you can serve faithfully and into which you can sow your time, talent, and treasure so that God can build you up into what He needs you to be.  You need to pray for it, speak the Word and truth over it and see it prosper and flourish, whether it is a ministry, a job, your family, or something you are volunteering your time for. And when you do so faithfully, God will notice and call you into what He has wanted to give you since before you were born.  If you are faithful over little, he will promote you into bigger things.